Welcome
I started college in 2016 and I’m still working on my bachelor’s degree. There were many academic and life challenges in the early years and a few similar challenges in recent years, too.
As I develop this page, I hope to create a little space that tells people struggling is not a personal failure. That the college experience can take some serious adjustment, but we can create support systems and use every last resource if we take care of our energy.
Good luck! I hope this page serves you in some way.
*FGLI stands for first-generation, low income
Balancing Responsibilities
As an FGLI student, I often found myself navigating the delicate balance between academics, family obligations, financial pressures, and personal goals.
The constant juggling act was exhausting, and it was worse when going to college felt like forcing yourself into a club that didn’t want you.
The weight of trying to excel while managing external expectations, like providing a future for your family, can sometimes feel overwhelming.
At 28, time away from college and time in general has given me rest and life experience to better handle everything on my plate. I have experience in the field I want to build a career in and I’m on track to graduate within 1.5 years!
Overcoming Imposter Syndrome
Imposter syndrome is a familiar experience for many FGLI students, where self-doubt creeps in and you question whether you truly belong or have a comparable skill set.
The feeling that you’re somehow “faking it” or don’t deserve to be in whatever space can be isolating.
These thoughts often stem from the pressure of being one of the few from your background in higher education, making it hard to see the value you bring. The sense that you are not enough can cloud your achievements, now matter how significant.
Finding fulfillment
For many FGLI students, the pursuit of higher education is driven by the desire to create a better future for themselves and their families. But amid the grind, it can be difficult to find a sense of fulfillment.
The weight of expectations and the challenges of navigating an unfamiliar academic and social environment often leave little room for reflection on personal satisfaction.
We can forget to ask deeper questions about what truly brings meaning and joy in our journey. Learning that we deserve happiness, even when it’s impractical, is a tough lesson.
Advice
Ask for Help: Reach out for support, whether it’s from professors, mentors, or peers. You’re not alone. Ask asap and often. Take advantage of all the resources you can.
Find Your Community: Look for organizations or networks of first-gen students. Building relationships with others facing similar challenges helps a lot. But don’t forget to explore interests outside your major, you’ll find your people there, too.
Celebrate Your Progress: Don’t let setbacks, big or small, discourage you. Every step forward is a success, and you should be proud of what you accomplish. Dwell on the good times.
Take Care of Your Mental Health: Reach out to counseling services if you’re feeling anxious or depressed. Find healthy outlets for stress, whether that’s exercise, hobbies, or talking to a trusted friend. Sometimes the “strongest” people need help, too.
Jailene Leyva 